Jeanine Petro, M.Ed.
As a Counselor Educator, I am a stubborn idealist...
A Little Bit About Me
I have served as a School Counselor both in Broward County, FL & London, England.
I am a poet and have written children’s and young adult books.
A Bit of My “Way of Counseling”
I often draw on Attachment Theory, Eric Erikson’s Stages of development and Adlerian Theory. I use researched and trusted School Counseling books and resources designed for school counseling, for the services I provide. I personally have Christian values.
Counseling Notions on Which I Rely
Knowing the stage of development your child is in is helpful. Early on children are learning trust, next they learn to assert or take initiative and then begin to contend with feeling adequate and equipped to succeed in life. In other words, the young pupil is learning how to become confident in becoming a learner. Their prefrontal lobes (ability to pre-plan) has not developed yet: They rely on parent/guardians and teachers to learn how to develop disciplined lives.
Temperament is inborn. Research shows that we typically have the temperament make-up of either our mother or our father. It may be helpful to process our emotional responses with that in mind.
For example, when my daughter displays strong hurt feelings, she is able to work through her temperament (the pattern of those feelings). I do not “over-reason” with her but rather allow her a few minutes of room for her to manage her unique strong feelings and talk/make expectations when she has settled.
Misbehavior and behavior patterns are unique to the individual. Students may or may not have the same kind of purpose of behavior/misbehavior reasoning as mom or dad. Adlerian Psychology teaches that there are Four types of behavior/misbehavior that we struggle with to grow as a disciplined person:
Young students should learn to calm/settle and create great learning habits. One of the forms of misbehavior is our standard ‘go to’ misbehavior. The other types of difficulties could become opportunities to have conversation, learn something together, develop a plan or value she/he is questioning. Discipline takes various forms. Our children are unique…and yet similar.
Attachment theory teaches us so much about the kinds and variety of emotions. A child registers feelings when they connect with the same feelings of their parent(s)! When your child connects with your eyes and knows/sees the same emotion, they register or approve of it. They then have access to those emotions throughout life.
Like Individual Psychology teachers, I believe that the ultimate goal for students is to have a career, a home and a hobby. There are decisions, goals, expectations and relationships along the way that make up and prepare us for our lives.
A. Adler (1979). Superiority and Social Interest. W. W. Norton & Company.
K. S. Berger (2014). Invitation to The Life Span. Worth Publishers.
L. K. Brown & M. Brown (1986). Dinosaurs Divorce: A Guide for Changing Families. Little Brown and Company.
D. Goleman (1995). Emotional Intelligence: Why it Can Matter More Than IQ. Bantam Books.
L. Sax (2005). Why Gender Matters: What Parents and Teachers Need To Know About The Emerging Science of Sex Differences. Broadway Books.
D. Siegel & T. P. Bryson (2012). The Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies To Nurture Your Child's Developing Mind. Bantam Books Trade Paperbacks.
H. N. Wright (2001). Always Daddy's Girl: Understanding Your Father's Impact On Who You Are. Regal Books.